【童真日記】我的哥哥

 

無意間看到哥哥40年前從美國寄來的信,字裡行間充滿慰問、關懷、勸告和鼓勵的話。雖然只有三頁,看完眼眶已充滿了淚水,即時就打電話給哥哥。他住在美國東部,有時很難找到他,但那天,電話一響,就聽見他的聲音。我叫了一聲"哥哥"淚水就要奪眶而出了,哥哥一定感覺到我的心情,一連說了幾個笑話,笑得我前仰後合,之後,他問我心情如何,我照實告訴他,剛讀了他寫的信,正想大哭一場時,卻被他說的笑話引得笑個不停。我的哥哥就是這樣一個善解人意的人!

我們的家庭有三女一男,雖然父母親從不承認因他是獨子而特別的寵他,但他自己卻很看重他這個獨子的身份,每逢過節,生日的,他送禮的卡片上總是寫著"你唯一的哥哥贈送"他自認是姐妹們的保護者,父母親傳宗接代的繼承人!

我們家除了妹妹以外,包括父母親都先後信了耶穌為救主和生命的主。哥哥是家中第一位信主的,那時他在香港中文大學攻讀,與一位女同學談戀愛,她就是今天的嫂嫂。嫂嫂出生在三代信仰基督的家庭,自己也是基督徒。過去哥哥、我和妹妹常拿基督徒、教會和聖經中的話語來取笑,但自從認識嫂嫂以後就再沒有從哥哥口中聽到那種譏笑的話語了。我和妹妹都很奇怪,且看到他房間桌子上有本聖經,翻開看到許多經文都用紅筆劃線,那是他認為重要,想記下來的吧,妹妹和我就開始取笑他了,他卻從不生氣也不動怒。畢業後,他去美國的大學深造,嫂嫂也跟著去了,但雙方不在同一州,哥哥因學費昂貴,積蓄不夠花用,嫂嫂在別州幫人家帶孩童,省吃儉用,每個月寄錢給哥哥,幫助他的開銷。哥哥畢業以後就和嫂嫂結婚了。

那時我在加拿大首都渥太華大學攻讀公眾健康護理,也是入不敷出,哥嫂每月寄錢來給我付學費和生活費,他們剛上軌道並不富裕。這樣幫我一年多之久,現在每想起來,淚水就欲奪眶而出!

在他自己的小家庭中,哥哥也是一位標準丈夫和父親,雖然他的工作令他常常要搬家,不能久居一地,但嫂嫂和孩子們從無怨言,很多次要打包收拾行李去到另一個陌生的地方,重新建立居所。兩個侄兒女和我的兩個孩子同年,到今天仍然獨身,我相信是因為他們找不到象他們父母親那樣完美的對象吧!但他們的事業都很成功。感到安慰的是,他們全家都是基督徒。

看了哥哥寫的信以後,令我感慨萬分。幾十年的生命過去了,當時讀了信有何感慨已經不記得了,但現在再讀一遍的時候感覺自己是那麼幸福,因為有一位這樣的哥哥。從他的信中,他讓我感覺自己在他心目中多麼重要又有價值,他憐惜欣賞我這個妹妹。信中提到數件我對他的幫助,自己都忘掉的,比如我在護士學校學習時,校方給的補助金全省下來給他使用,他信中說妹妹的慷慨和友愛的心使我終身不忘!

哥哥比我大三歲,卻到如今還在工作,原因是他每次退休不久就又被請回去幫忙,可見他多麼受上司的器重。他們一家住在父母親的居所附近,所以父母還健在時我每一兩年會去看望他們,有時也會在哥哥嫂嫂家住住。自從父母親去世後,就很少再去。哥哥因工出差,曾經數次來到溫哥華,住豪華酒店,他必定會請我去並噓寒問暖,關懷備至,令我在他身上嘗到近似主耶穌的愛!我曾經多麼盼望有一位像他那樣的配偶,恐怕像他那樣的男子漢還是少數,不然世上也不會有這麼多的婚變了。所幸天上有一位更完美的主耶穌在等待我們,所有屬神的人都會在那裡,一同享受父神和弟兄姐妹的愛!這是基督徒的盼望,也是我們喜樂的源頭。

"你們心裡不要憂愁,你們信神,也當信我。在我父的家裡有有許多住處,若是沒有,我就早已告訴你們了。我去原是為你們預備地方去,我若去為你們預備了地方,就必再來接你們到我那裡去,我在哪裡,叫你們也在那裡。"(約14:1-3)

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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