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【小基督大世界】嗐!怎麼又說錯話了?

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WrongWord我熟識的朋友中,有一個姊妹非常熱心助人,個性外向,很有愛心,很聰明,學習能力很強,是一位很可愛的姊妹,但是美中不足之處是......,她常常因太興奮,在不經意中,說了不該說的話,也因為如此,常無意識地得罪或傷了許多人。可喜的是,當這位姊妹意識到自己的話語傷到別人後,她會很快地向對方道歉,尋求諒解。令人惋惜的是,她因為屢屢脫口說出不該說的話,且次數實在太頻繁,雖然事後常常道歉,別人卻不再領情,因為覺得她的道歉很「便宜」,感覺不到道歉的誠意,別人表面上接受道歉,但心中對這位姊妹說話的動機存疑。我因熟識這位姊妹,知道她多半是無心之過,絕沒有要傷害對方的意思,也知道她的道歉真是發自內心地尋求諒解,無奈,因無法「管制」自己的舌頭,常常出口傷人,而讓被傷者在心中對她留下極負面的評價,她許多的優點也因這致命的問題而被忽略了。

我也認識一些人平常說話直來直往,這本是好事,因為沒有虛偽,神也喜悅心中沒有詭詐的人。但有時這些心直口快的人也以此點自誇,覺得這樣很好,且自詡「我的個性就是這樣」!但是這樣的人如果因自身思想或觀點偏頗,不中立,就很可能會開口說些「不營養」、「不造就人」的話。他們的話一出口,就像是拋出去的箭,收不回來,傷人極深,當這箭被反彈射回來,自己也是傷痕累累!

上面的例子不只在說別人,其實也是在說我自己!

聖經教導我們:「你要保守你心,勝過保守一切,因為一生的果效,是由心發出」。(箴言四章23節)我們所講的,會把我們的心思意念暴露出來。人可以因後天的教育、學習,而學得如何說話,有時也會因顧慮大局的變化,而學會「隱忍不發」,即便這樣,我們也不可能時時保持在高度警戒的狀態。當我們疲憊或興奮時,常會有沒有事先考慮過的語句,不知不覺地從我們的口裡冒出來,我們是不可能完全隱藏我們的心思意念的。

路加福音六章45節提到:「善人從他心裡所存的善就發出善來;惡人從他心裡所存的惡就發出惡來;因為心裡所充滿的,口裡就說出來」。心裡潔淨,沒有負面思想的人,不管在怎樣的環境下都不太可能說出不造就人的話,如同從小就沒有聽過別人罵髒話,或意識中沒有髒話這些字句,人即便在很生氣的狀態,想發洩情緒開罵時,即便詞窮,也絕對不會「出口成髒」,說出他想都沒有想過的「三字經」之類的話,因為他的字彙裡是沒有這些字眼的,要罵也罵不出來!

舌頭是神賜給人用來溝通、讚美或教導人的器官,但人類因為始祖墮落,被罪綑綁,心中於是容易充滿各樣的不滿、苦毒、負面等情緒,「心裡所充滿的,口裡就說出來」,以致於舌頭帶出毀滅性的傷害來。

我們要如何時時保持儆醒,不說錯話呢?我想要禁止說錯話的最好的方法,不是閉嘴不說話,而是乾脆請人來幫我們二十四小時把關,時時看管我們這顆難以駕馭的心。他若能掌管我們的心,就等於也掌管著我們的舌頭!

請誰呢?請「主耶穌的靈」常住在我們心裡,是最好的辦法。因為祂是神,祂無所不在,無所不知,無所不能,更沒有失誤!但如何請呢?

認出耶穌的來歷,知道祂是可信任的,是真正的朋友(耶穌基督為我們的罪被釘在十字架上,祂的寶血洗淨我們的罪,所以我們才有機會成為祂的「朋友」)。

將家裡打掃乾淨以迎接耶穌(作認罪禱告,將心清理乾淨);歡迎耶穌進家門(請耶穌基督的靈進入我們的心);誠心誠意地請耶穌坐上座(讓基督的靈掌管我們的心);與耶穌親密地交通(時時聆聽聖靈對我們的提醒,與聖靈傾談,得著從聖靈來的智慧);將所學的運用出在日常生活中(以聖靈的指引為「心」生活的方向);時時打掃家裡,一有垃圾就處理乾淨,以免怠慢了耶穌(常反省,作認罪禱告,將心裡清乾淨,使聖靈可以在我們心中自由運行)。

如果這麼做,我們的心就可時時保持乾淨明亮,當然也包括我們那根很難受管束的舌頭。記住,心裡沒有的東西,嘴巴是不會說出來的喔,保守我們的心,就保守一切!

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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