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【牧者抒懷】做男人要有膊頭

 

ToBeAMan近日城中熱話,「做男人要有膊頭,做公職要有腰骨。」這兩句說話是出自香港特別行政區新一屆行政長官參選人之一。他雖然競選期間頻頻失言,坊間卻認為是近期偶有的佳作。他的原意是告訴大家,他是一個有承擔,不「卸膊」,也不「縮骨」的參選人。至於口號與實情是否配合,早已不是大眾所關心的了。

一句算是還有一點綽頭的說話,本來期望帶來的效果是落地鏗鏘,引起全城共鳴起哄的話題,誰知道即時引發起不少女性的反感抗議:做男人的要有膊頭,難道做女人的不用嗎?反觀現今社會,很多女仕肩頭上面所承擔的,與男仕相比,往往有過之而無不及!近期電影《鐵血娘子》(The Iron Lady)描述戴卓爾夫人及以昂山素姬為主題的電影(The Lady)都勾劃出國際政治舞台一些硬朗又有承擔的風雲人物。所以,不單只做男人要有膊頭,做女人也要有膊頭,基本上,做人就要有膊頭。

承擔,一個在今天商政界已經是鳳毛麟角,甚至被喻為老套的事情,再不是新一代較急功近利的「打工仔」所秉持的態度了。今天流行的是「促銷」,不管是商品或意念,策略或計劃,都要促促地推銷,憑那三寸不爛之舌,口若懸河地將優點硬銷,成功將高層說服,隨即以毫不留情的管理方法(Ruthless Management),殺下屬一個措手不及,令他們只好逆來順受,默默地幹。然後繼續以自己的個人利益為宗旨,再籌謀下一步晉升的部署,在這一步的隱憂還未完全暴露,計時炸彈還未引爆之前,又成功跳到另一更高的崗位,就像當年的泡沫經濟一樣,來一個泡沫管理。承擔二字,只有欠奉!

承擔,是由內而外的一種美德,也是一種夢寐以求的個人魅力。既然在現實生活不容易找到,難怪那些電影、電視劇、小說等橋段是這麼的吸引人。《義海豪情》的劉醒與九姑娘,彼此對愛情的堅持,對友情的承擔,正如女主角所言,竟然不用甚麼情慾接吻戲,卻可以表露無遺,實屬難得。金庸小說裡的人物,喬峰對民族朋友的兩脅插刀,郭靖對國家國民的誓守襄陽,楊過對小龍女的情深義重,對郭襄的一諾千金,在在令人神往。承擔,難度只靠想像才能找到?

遠的不說,其實在我們身邊,在家庭,在教會,在工作,還是有不少肯承擔的人。只是他們的願意並非我們理想中的要求,在現實與夢想中的差距往往令人失望以致抱怨,對人的期望一次又一次地幻滅,人對人的信心崩潰,於是人覺得,求人不如求己。只見人們一股打不死的精神,打掉門牙帶血吞,一心想到為著家庭,為著教會,為著工作,只管往前衝,就是承擔,就是不計回報的付出,於是擔子揹得很重,很辛苦,得吃力!

聖經說:「並不是我們憑自己能承擔什麼事;我們所能承擔的,乃是出於神。」(林後3:5) 要知道我們所能承擔的力量,不是我們的膊頭有多寬多闊多廣,能承托得多少,要視乎內在的韌力、堅忍和恆心,要知道這一切都出於神。神願意與我們同行,祂就不會讓我們獨自肩擔重擔。有弟兄分享他信主前後判若兩人,他愛惜家庭一如既往,但往昔的他只會將大小事情一一扛在肩上,倦到筋疲力盡,偶爾想到死了還更輕鬆,但是一想到家庭無人照料,卻又死不瞑目,惟有繼續苦撐下去,思想不斷打窘。信主後學會交託放手,由主帶領,立時如釋重負!生活頓時充滿喜樂,充滿感恩!

真正有膊頭的,能真正承擔的只有耶穌基督,祂被釘在十字架上,是為全人類承擔一切罪孽,祂在十字架上說:「成了!」(約19:30) 是祂救贖的工作完成了;是祂為世人擔當了所有罪債,付上了贖價;是祂親自成為和睦,使人和睦,為你和我跟父神的關係重新修好復和;是祂不單為我們死,更為我們復活,預備永生這份禮物。

這就是幾個星期後,即將來臨的受苦節和復活節的真正意義。你可有感受得到主為你所作的一切?

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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