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【護家季刊】紐約第五屆夫妻節慶祝餐會記實

 

由維護一男一女婚姻協會主辦的「紐約第五屆夫妻節慶祝餐會」2012年11月11日下午五時在紐約華埠中華海外宣道會舉行,來自各教會的60多位弟兄姊妹享用了晚餐,並在這個慶祝愛與婚姻的聚會中唱詩、聆聽信息,也敞開心靈踴躍分享各人信仰與婚姻的見證,渡過了一個和樂與溫馨的夜晚。

聚會開始時,豐收靈糧堂敬拜讚美小組的年輕弟兄姊妹帶領大家唱詩,角聲福音粵曲詩班也演唱了有關愛與夫妻節的詩歌。中宣會主任牧師丁聖材在聚會中用兩段聖經經文分享了婚姻的意義和幸福婚姻的密訣,一段經文是馬可福音10:6-9耶穌對婚姻的教訓「但從起初創造的時候,神造人是造男造女,因此人要離開父母,與妻子連合,二人成為一體。既然如此,夫妻不再是兩人,乃是一體的了,所以神配合的,人不可分開。」

另一段經文是瑪拉基書2:15「雖然神有靈的餘力能造多人,他不是單造一人麼?為何只造一人呢?乃是他願人得虔誠的後裔。所以當謹守你們的心,誰也不可以詭詐待幼年所娶的妻。」(意思是神造一人,夏娃是從亞當而出,二人成為一體,生虔誠的後裔。)

丁牧師指出,神造男造女,並設立一男一女結合的婚姻是要婚姻為人帶來幸福,不是要人忍受不幸的婚姻,從這兩段經文中可以得知幸福婚姻的密訣,這些密訣包括:

第一,神設立的婚姻是一男一女的結合,除此之外任何形式的結合都不能稱為婚姻,也不能帶給人幸福。

第二,結婚的人要離開父母,這主要是指夫妻二人要成長、成熟,在經濟上、精神上和家庭管理上負起責任來,不再倚賴父母。

第三,二人成為一體,這包括肉體、心理和生命的成為一體,基督徒最大的優勢是有神,夫妻在屬靈生命上合一,共同愛主、追求、事奉,是幸福婚姻的最大保障。

第四,不可心硬,耶穌在馬可福音10章中指責法利賽人心硬,想要休妻,心硬會使第三者有機可乘,幸福婚姻必須要夫妻都心軟,時時想著對方的好處。

第五,神配合的,人不可分開,夫妻婚前和婚後都不可有離婚的念頭,這樣才會努力維護婚姻,獲得幸福、成功的婚姻。

丁牧師說,夫妻如果遵行這些密訣,誰都不能破壞他們的婚姻。神造人和設立婚姻是要人生育虔誠的後裔,有幸福的婚姻,才有幸福的家庭和復興的教會,在幸福的婚姻和家庭中,可以看到敬虔的後裔,和在世世代代中看到神的榮耀。

與會的弟兄姊妹都深深被此信息打動,紛紛分享自己的領受和經驗,有些人是被信主的另一半以愛心和忍耐帶領才接受主的,他們表示對另一半充滿感謝;也有許多弟兄姊妹因要照顧年老的父母而與父母同住,婚姻中有婆媳或岳父母與女婿相處的問題,有的弟兄說,母親與妻子的省籍、語言不同,常會誤解對方話語的意思,有的弟兄表示不解為何女人那麼敏感,婆媳間產生那麼大的矛盾,但他們都表示,神的話對解決他們生活、工作和家庭的問題,有很大的幫助。

豐收靈糧堂的蕭慕道牧師和新生衛理公會的袁務成牧師都在會中表示 結婚的人離開父母是心智上的決定,自己負起責任,面對困難,並非不照顧年老體弱的父母,解決婆媳相處問題最好的方法是幫助她們做更好的基督徒,真信主、愛主的人,不僅對婆婆或對媳婦,甚至對所有的人都能凡事包容,凡是忍耐,並且能看到和欣賞別人的優點和榜樣。

維護一男一女婚姻協會主席黃宗澤也在會中報告了夫妻節的源起,他說,夫妻節是香港大衛城文化中心的吳振智牧師在2002年首先發起的,多年來已推廣至紐約、溫哥華、澳洲雪梨和廣東中山,並希望推廣至英國。夫妻節定為11月11日是取「一夫一妻,一生一世」的意思,希望藉夫妻節的慶祝來鞏固一男一女的婚姻,以造福社會、國家和後代子孫。

黃弟兄說,維護一男一女婚姻協會除了舉行夫妻節慶祝聚會外,還呼籲各教會在11月的聚會中傳講有關婚姻、家庭的信息,並鼓勵夫妻在這一天自已慶祝這個深情的節日。他也建議弟兄姊妹在明年的夫妻節邀請一對夫妻,最好是尚未信主的夫妻,出去吃飯慶祝,把夫妻節的信息傳達給他們。

黃弟兄並且提到2012年總統大選,支持同性婚姻的歐巴馬總統當選連任,和三州公投通過同性婚姻合法,真正的基督徒都感到很傷心,也應該反省未盡力參與推動反對同性婚姻,但基督徒不應灰心氣餒,因為詩篇20:10說:「洪水泛濫之時,耶和華坐著為王;耶和華坐著為王,直到永遠。」應該繼續為美國禱告,求神使美國改變心意,回轉走在神的道中。

這個夫妻節慶祝聚會最後在歡樂的抽獎活動後結束。

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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