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【特稿】快聽,慢說,勿動怒

 

雅各書一章十九節中說:"你們各人要快快地聽,慢慢地說,慢慢地動怒。"這句話的中心思想是什麼呢?-- 快聽,慢說,勿動怒。

快快地聽
P4-angry快快地聽的意思,並不是別人講十句話,你只聽五句,或者別人還沒有講完全部內容,你卻開始評頭品足,妄下斷言,這都是不足取的。我們面對世上的一切事物只知其一,不知其二,就是沒有把事情快快地聽完,會產生很多誤判:一個人有一點缺點錯誤,就認為是壞人,其實他還有很多優點尚未被你發現。聽信別人論斷,自己不加判斷,不辨真偽,人云亦云,無意中成了一個散布謠言的人。

"多言多語難免有過,禁止嘴唇是有智慧。"(箴言10:19)快快地聽就是讓我們多聽、善聽、全面、完整地聽,這樣就不會冒失下斷言,被別人嗤笑,也不會陷入毀謗人的罪裡。

慢慢地說
慢慢地說,是我們人生道德品質修養之一。神說:"你在神面前不可冒失開口,也不可心急發言:因為神在天上,你在地下,所以你的言語要寡少,事務多,就令人作夢:言語多就顯出愚昧。"(傳道書5:2-3)有人請你作什麼事,一定要慢慢地說,要考慮周到才能滿口應承,否則就擔當失言之咎。

當我們遇見新朋友時,十分高興。孔子曰:"有朋自遠方來,不亦樂乎?"(論語1-1)這是指志同道合的知已朋友。"遠"不僅有遠方的意思,而且包含著人與人在思想、觀念、情趣、志向等心靈上無法丈量的距離。鍾子期和俞伯牙的故事可以說是對這段話最好的注解。"高山流水",人生得一知己,當然是一件很快樂的事。這句話也體表現了人生苦短,知己難求,應當好好珍惜的意思!但有的人初次見面,便將很多的知心話告訴別人,豈不知對方原來是一個詭詐陰險自私自利的人。所以,要慢慢地說,切莫掉以輕心。

子曰:"視其所以,觀其所由,察其所安。人焉廋哉?人焉廋哉?"這句話的意思就是說:如何判斷一個人的好壞,既要看他當前的言行,又要看是什麼原因導致了他當前的言行,還要看他的實際用心和目的是什麼。孔子的意是,要客觀綜合的評判一個人,首先要看他當前言行的好壞,其次要看是什麼原因導致了他當前的言行,第三要看他的用心和出發點是否純良。如果用這三種方法來考察一個人的話,那此人還有什麼可隱藏和掩飾的呢?也就可以給此人作評判了。

慢慢地說,既不要輕信,也不要急於批駁他人,要耐心,安靜地等別人把意思表達後,再作定奪。

慢慢地動怒
我們每一個人都有七情六慾,都有發怒的情景。神告誡我們:"生氣卻不要犯罪,不可含怒到日落。"(以弗所書4:26)人往往在發怒的時候最不易控制自己的情感,說一些不該說的話,做一些不該做的事。聖經說:"人有見識,就不輕易發怒,寬恕人的過失,便是自己的榮耀。"(箴言19:11)

不隨意發脾氣的人是智者,首先,你遇到任何事情都不能過於急躁,真要發脾氣的時候,可能你很難冷靜,但你需要的是想一想為什麼要發脾氣,為了誰或者說是為了什麼發脾氣.如果這件事我不發脾氣,我會怎麼去處理呢?自己多問自己幾個不同的問題,很多時候,這種性格是靠自己慢慢的修養出來的。

容易發怒的人並不是聰明的人:"愚妄人怒氣全發,智慧人忍氣含怒。"(箴言29:11)孔子曰:"君子無所爭。必也射乎!揖讓而升,下而飲,其爭也君子。"(論語3-7)大意是:君子對什麼事情都不爭。如果說有所爭,那一定是射箭比賽吧!雙方互相作揖、謙讓,然後登場;射完箭走下來飲酒。這種爭是君子之爭。

射箭,是西周官學的教育內容之一,也是孔子倡導的 "六藝" 之一,是貴族子弟以及武士、文人必學的技能。據《儀禮》、《禮記》等書記載,正式且成規模的射箭比賽分四種:一是大射,全國性的比賽;二是賓射,貴族之間朝見聘會時舉行;三是燕射,貴族間的娛樂;四是鄉射,民間的比賽。所有這些射箭比賽,都有嚴格、繁瑣的禮儀規定。

我們發怒就是因"爭"而起。神的美善、慈愛和憐憫,在神的義中不容人的怒氣,人也不能在怒氣中彰顯神的美善。讓我們再次牢記神的教誨:"你們各人要快快地聽,慢慢地說,慢慢地動怒。"(雅各書1:19)

(於阿得雷德ADELAIDE)

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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