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【上帝的幽默感】父親的期盼

 

Fathers-Love-letter 1最近和朋友相聚時,談到網站上對亞洲父母的反應,不禁莞爾。有些事我們自己平時不注意,卻都落到人家手裡當把柄了。因為六月是慶祝父親節的月份,所以只看亞洲父親的口頭襌。

 

對女兒:大學之前不准交男朋友!/跟你交往的兔崽子是誰?/那個男的是誰?/不可以跟男人上床/不准在外面過夜;

 

對兒子:老子當初只帶五分錢就來美國了/老子沒錢給你啦!/我今天不打死你我就叫你爸。

 

對任何一個孩子:你考試考幾分?/功課寫好了沒?/你在學校表現好不好?/我朋友的小孩生下來就是當醫生的料/為什麼你沒考上醫學系?/尊重你的長輩!......。

 

Fathers-Love-letter 3有一位朋友談到和兒子的關係時有些黯然,因為他的兒子因出意外過世了,他覺得這件事教育了他明白很多事情。因為他自己幾個兄弟讀書都讀得很好,都有博士學位,所以他期望兒子也要去拿個博士學位。但是他兒子是個非常快樂且有愛心的孩子,他希望能夠幫助別人,他要成為一個社會工作人員。在他的安息禮拜裡,有好幾個他的朋友上去分享他們從他得到的幫助。他尚未大學畢業,卻已經找到一份社工的工作。在美加成長的孩子,他們比較獨立,有自己的想法,有自己的抱負,有的中國父母很難認同這一點。朋友表示,兒子一直希望得到他的肯定,他卻一直按自己的想法去要求兒子,因此父子關係不是很好。

 

但是當作父親的看到,原來兒子曾經幫助這麼多人,帶給大家那麼多快樂,而且還沒大學畢業,已經找到了一份正式工作。他開始明白,兒子的確不同凡響。他開始明白,兒子其實一直很努力,用他的方法在努力,而且做得很出色。幸好他的兒子很早就信主了,相信他在天上必然已經聽到父親的心聲,必然也感到很安慰。我們大多是第一代的移民,都帶著自己的文化背景在北美自以為然地生活、教育孩子,卻沒想到在這個環境長大,孩子跟我們也不一樣。

 

Fathers-Love-letter 2有個父親,簡直不能接受女兒的穿著。尤其北美的女孩子穿得比較少,上面低一點,下面高一點,當父親的看了都要瘋了。為了警誡女兒,便口不擇言地罵。想當然而,父女的關係緊張得隨時有激戰發生。有位父親,可能愛之深責之切,孩子在學校表現得十分好,他一概不讚賞、不表揚,但只要被他看不順眼,他就狠狠地發揮父親的權威,結果孩子寧可辛苦賺錢交租,也要搬出去住。可能因為我們這一代的父親,都是被他們上一代的父親嚴厲地愛過,所以也把同樣嚴厲的愛加在孩子身上。

 

在我身邊有許多年輕的父親,我發現這一代的男孩子(男人)還真會當父親。從幫忙換嬰兒尿布到跟孩子玩耍,讓家裡充滿歡樂,讓母親也有休息的機會。是否這個環境給他們的影響,或是他們希望跟孩子有比較好一點的關係,不要像他們跟自己的父親相處那般痛苦。我們這一代的朋友裡,有不少在工作中非常出色,但是工作出色,相對的就沒有時間跟家人在一起。尤其是事業和教會的事奉,讓帶職事奉的弟兄們一週忙足七天。我們是過來人,感謝神讓我們年輕時有那樣的精力。現在看到有些朋友的孩子寧可放棄高薪,找普通工作,維持家庭、事業和事奉的平衡。我很佩服他們的選擇。

 

Fathers-Love-letter 4父親是家裡一個非常重要的角色,就好像一艘船的船長,只要有他在,作母親的即使身負好幾個責任,也能安心地忙,喜樂地忙。根據調查,貧窮的家庭多數單親,而且是單親母親。一個家裡沒有父親,就好像一個屋子的主樑斷了。父親留給孩子的榜樣是終生的,父親的同在給孩子的安全感,也是最寶貴的禮物。

 

但願每一個父親都能享受孩子在身邊的時候,多給他們一些鼓勵,多給一些表揚。這樣的愛,孩子比較容易接受和感受到。我們的天父從不大聲責備我們,若有提醒,聖靈也總是微聲提醒。若是天父大聲提醒,我們有誰受得了呢?

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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