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【特稿】親子情箋 – 希望滿人間

 

媽:

昨天我剛完成了中期考試,現在如釋重負,心中數算著,再過兩個月就大考,完了以後便可儘快回家,真是興奮。昨晚我與幾位知己到薄餅店慶祝一番,天南地北無所不談:上至政治、文學,下至烹飪、時裝,偶爾我與他們提及你上次在電郵中與我分享電影《Toy Story(反斗奇兵)》的啟迪,不料大家卻敞開心懷,停不了嘴,盡訴心底話。媽,您真是一位智者,我以您為榮。

暢談之間,發覺大家都開始適應大學生活,可是有一位高材生卻突然紅了眼圈,分享她内心的徬徨與失落。一直以來,父母師長都把她捧為天才,她也自視很高,可是進入了一所理想大學以後,卻發現自己只是衆多尖子的其中一名,無甚特別,而且無論她多努力,都得不到像中學時考取A+的成績。忽然她對自己失卻信心,更對前境感到無奈及無望。我能體會這位好友的感觸,但卻不懂得如何安慰她。媽,您的看法又如何呢?

嘉嘉上

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親愛的嘉嘉:

知道你努力讀書,又懂得平衡生活,有空又和三兩知己談心歡聚,看著你逐漸成長,心裡實在又高興又感恩。你是一個有思想的女孩,我也以你為傲。

上次與你談及《反斗奇兵》的啟迪,深感不但年輕人,甚至成年人也應該常反思人生的目的。聽了你好友的深情分享,我想起另一部動畫《UP(飛屋環遊記)》。你可否記得幾年前我們一家人在感恩節去戲院觀賞這部電影?雖然故事純屬虛構,但不消幾分鐘,很多觀衆就抹淚飲泣。其實故事可以進到人的心靈深處,觸動他們的感情,啟發人作出反思,難怪電影是與人溝通的一扇門,特別是與年輕人。

《飛屋環遊記》這部電影中提到的老翁 Carl 與他的妻子 Ellie,從小便夢想一起到南美洲的世外桃源作探險之旅。後來二人長大結婚以後,每天忙碌的生活使他們漸漸地忘記了這個夢想,他們渴望生養孩子,可是一直不能如願,到了年紀老邁的時候,提起這個夢想之旅,二人已是有心無力,遺憾之甚。當妻子 Ellie 因病去世,Carl 的人生仿佛再沒有希望,很多往日的夢想都破滅了,正巧遇到一位臉圓圓的小男孩 Russell 拍門,這位小童軍從小沒有父親,他努力爭取「服務耆老」勳章,希望這樣能把失去的父親吸引回來。不料 Carl 帶著這個小男孩一起,被一大撮的氣球帶上雲霄,飛越萬里,最終到達他夢想的世外桃源。

這個故事的啟迪是在開頭和結尾,當 Carl 懷念亡妻,一頁一頁地翻開她生前所做的貼紙日記,看到很多二人生活瑣事中的快樂片斷時,他輕嘆起來:原來 Carl 一直刻意地追尋夢想中的樂園,但因生活常與他的夢想有出入;以致他經常對生命不滿、抱怨,甚至苦毒和失望,但他的妻子卻與他大不相同,每天享受著他們的二人世界,把他們所經歷的大小事情,都看作是一個探險之旅,每天彷彿活在樂園中。環顧現今的世人,他們是否經常感到失落與無望?當所追求的夢想幻滅與所愛的人離世時,他們會否感到氣餒與迷失呢?原來當我們太刻意地要抓住自己鎖定的理想時,卻忽略了很多從身邊擦過的機會或那些深愛及等候著我們的人。其實生命本身就是一個如萬花筒般的探險之旅。

劇中另一點感人之處,就是 Russell 這小男孩,在童軍頒獎典禮中領受「服務獎章」,雖然他是衆人當中最多獎章的一個,但他渴望的卻是能換取父親的愛與認同。諷刺的是,站在他身旁擁有父親陪同的其他的小孩,卻渴望領到 Russell 所得到的榮譽和成就。

我們人生的輝煌成就,真的能換取我們所渴求的愛與被接納嗎?也許進入理想的學府,出人頭地,找到高薪的職業,這些可以是人生的快事,但如果讓這些成為我們人生最終的目標,達到了後又如何呢?正如聖經裡所羅門王說:「凡事都是虛空,人一切勞碌就是他在日光之下的勞碌,有甚麽益處呢?」(傳道書1:2-3)。故事中的最後一幕,Carl 站在臺上,成為 Russell 的代父,之後二人拿著雪糕,一起坐在教堂外的石排上,享受著和麗的天氣和那親密如同父子的關係,這不是比他們一直渴求的世外桃源和滿身獎章更值得滿足喜樂嗎?原來天父造人,也希望我們能享受地上豐足的人生,耶穌也曾說:「我來了,是要叫羊得生命,並且得的更豐盛。」(約翰福音10:10)。

嘉嘉,願你們這群年輕人都能抓住生命的真正意義,過一個豐盛有盼望的人生。期望你快點放假回家,讓爸媽抱抱你。

愛你的媽媽

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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