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【特稿】三種文化集於我家

 

MyHome耀潔是小孫女的中文名,Holly 是她的英文,問她誰是「賢娥」?她知道是自己的韓文名字。小孫女的三個名字,代表著三種文化,三個族群,體現出三種身份與經驗集於一人之身。

小孫女也令長子兒媳,與我們一家人的距離拉近了許多,在心靈上幾乎是零距離。

淺藍色及粉底的邊框,是兒媳手繪給妻的母親節卡,卡片正面畫上三個漫畫小人頭像,四方的頭顱是大兒子,紮著小馬尾的是兒媳,捲捲髮的娃就是一歲半的小孫女Holly。工整的字體,加上小孫女橫七豎八,甲骨文般魚刺形的塗鴨簽字,表明對奶奶的祝福,深受妻的歡喜。

六個人成了一台戲

長子在他服務的公司,被選拔進入兩年 4 次「工作豐富化」的輪調,在母親節前夕與兒媳、小孫女,全家從芝加哥搬回北維州,就住在妻辦公室的對面,離我們的住處也不遠。

當天慶祝母親節,我們相約在一家阿富汗餐廳,捲羊肉、火雞肉串、炸雞塊為其特色,黃橙橙的玉米粒,配著穆斯林扁平的大餅麵包,沾著綠色及白色的沾料,棕色的豆子湯及自色米粒布丁是飯後的甜點。

六個人成了一台戲,眼睛大大、睫毛長長,活潑可愛的小孫女,自然地成為妻、兩個兒子、兒媳與筆者對話的焦點。雨過餐後,停車場上的水流涓涓不斷,兒媳牽著 Holly 的小手,兩人輕踏著流過的雨水,大兒子搖晃著樹枝,說道:「Rain drops!」Holly 看見了歡喜地回應:「逗 DOU」(韓文的再來一次),樹頭上的雨點,給家人帶來不少歡樂清心的喜悅。

小孫女看見並學著枝頭上的小鳥「吱吱啾啾」的叫聲,原來,在芝加哥,落地窗外陽台上的小鳥,就是她當時唯一的玩伴。模仿動物的聲音也是一種學習語言的方法,她指著飛機,看見天空劃過一線噴氣的畫痕,呈現出現代的文明與力量,自然界的一草一木,都成了孫女學習及體驗生活的管道。

家有寶寶成長多有趣

仍吸吮著母奶,在襁褓中的她也吃些尚未加鹽的各式菜丁及肉粥,她最喜歡一顆顆地吃綠色豌豆,手抓奶油果,兩隻小手,一上一下地緊握著一條烏龍麵,小嘴窸窸窣窣地專注歡喜著吸進麵條。

兒媳教她用四顆門牙,切斷麵條分次進食,並且連連說:「歐吉」(韓文稱讚、鼓勵),她臉上的每一條肌肉都在運作,淺露出一顆小酒窩,瞪著奶奶特製的「骨骨肉肉」湯,右手持著她專用湯匙,左手伸出大姆指叫好。

古諺云:「閱讀使人靈魂飛躍」,但我的次子說:「看 Holly 的錄像,比看書要有趣多了,Watch Holly makes uncle Daniel sole fly!」

下了班,已累躺在地板上的長子,Holly卻要在爸爸的身上爬來爬去,爸爸成了她的大玩偶。Holly 在嬰兒圍欄裏待久了,會伸出雙手說「Au-Du, please!」以自己的語言要抱抱之意。兒媳寄來 43 份生活錄像,及 2000 多張相片,就是小孫女成長的紀錄。

常以通訊軟體與在芝加哥長子一家對話,這一頭筆者與妻,兩部合唱美國兒歌 "My bunny":My bunny is over the ocean...,唱畢欲罷不能,小孫女更是 encore 了數次;妻笑著說:「唱了幾十年的詩班合唱,你這首男高音最動聽。」

三種身份集於一身

Holly 學習中、英、韓三種語言,一捲命名為「演講」的錄像,錄下她說:「爺爺、奶奶、I love you、magnetic、I know、 錦將(韓文的爸爸)上班工作」,加上以雙手飛吻,告別的動作,飛機、小鳥、Diaper 、Doctor...等等,最後在高舉著小小的雙手「Hurrah! Bye-Bye」的歡呼聲中結束,並以雙手掩面玩躲貓貓的遊戲。

家中電話答錄始終有她叫爺爺、奶奶的錄音,妻捨不得把錄音洗掉,打聽一下,方知親家母也捨不得清掉外孫女在答錄機上的留言,不時的重放答錄機,以解思念之情。

建立合一關係恢復次序

某牧師講的一篇道,進入三個會眾的耳內,似乎成為三篇道,存在於各自的心中,但真實地出自同一篇講章。三個不同版本的聖經,或是同一印刷版本的三本聖經,都是「那本書」,The B-I-B-L-E 聖經。

天父創造了世界,說有光就有了光,聖子從聖父而來,基督耶穌道成肉身,來到世間,帶來救恩的福音,是人子,又是神子。耶穌在橄攬山上升天後,與天父一起差派聖靈下來,住在我們的中間,基督將來還要再來,完成救贖的工作。

基督為中保,人就有自由的管道,可以直接地來到天父的寶座前祈禱。小孫女也令長子兒媳,與我們一家人的距離拉近了許多,在心靈上幾乎是零距離,也和叔叔(次子),透過網路 KaKao talk,大家一起傳送相片、錄像及即時信息,天涯若比鄰,縮短了我們之間的物理距離。

聖經約翰福音十七章20-22節:「我不但為這些人祈求,也為那些因他們的話信我的人祈求,使他們都合而為一。正如你父在我裏面,我在你裏面,使他們也在我們裏面,叫世人可以信你差了我來。...使他們合而為一,像我們合而為一。」這就是禱告的答案 --「叫他們合而為一,如同我們合而為一。」告訴我們生活上的次序,就是與人、與神建立良好生命合一的關係,成為人生當務之急。

 

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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