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【夫妻同心】我愛你是真的嗎?

 

「我愛你!親愛的。」— 這是真的嗎?

深夜,臨睡前,床頭的燈光帶著少許的朦朧,輕輕的音樂飄來陣陣的浪漫,輕拉著你配偶的手,凝望著他/她的眼睛,你慢慢地對配偶說:「親愛的,我愛你!」

˙ 這可能嗎?幾小時前在廚房的爭吵還在耳邊,這麼快就來到了天堂!

˙ 有需要嗎?多年的老夫老妻,一切早已平平淡淡,還需要這樣肉麻嗎!

˙ 這是真的嗎?捫心問問自己,心裏真的還愛著嗎!對配偶的真愛還在嗎?

˙ 配偶會相信我的愛嗎?曾經多少的埋怨和傷害,會相信我真的愛他/她嗎!

「我愛你!我的孩子。」—這是真的嗎?

秋末,星期天的黃昏,大學的宿舍前,落日的餘輝灑在孩子充滿朝氣的臉上。從車後座拿下幫孩子洗乾淨的衣被,還有那盆孩子喜歡的紅燒肉,你的手搭在孩子的肩上,輕輕地說:「我的孩子,我愛你!」

˙ 這是夢嗎?你清楚記得上次說這話時,孩子剛從幼兒園放學向你奔來。

˙ 這是我嗎?昔日高材生的你至今還在為孩子未被你期待的名校錄取而歎息!

˙ 這是真的嗎?在孩子沉迷於電腦的多少個夜晚,你吼聲連連,恨鐵不成鋼!

˙ 孩子會相信我的愛嗎?此時此刻,孩子心中的想法,父母還能摸得著嗎?

「我愛你!我的父母。」— 這是真的嗎?

下班了,客廳裏,玩具旁,父母正逗著你的小寶貝,哈哈大笑。你很熟悉這笑聲,那是當年暑假在家,在走廊上,在稻田邊,常常聽到的。桌上的飯菜還是熱的,你看到了父母彎駝的後背,真的老了。你心頭一熱,匆匆地道出「我的父母, 我愛你!」

˙ 我會說出來嗎?你手摸著童年留在腿上的青疤,那是當年那根長棍的印記。

˙ 我敢說嗎?昨晚夫婦的又一次冷戰,又是起因於母親那不明情理的埋怨。

˙ 這是真的嗎?代溝、習慣,在內心深處時時泛起那對老人厭倦的漣漪。

˙ 父母相信我的愛嗎?我的文化裏,我的記憶裏,似乎從未說過「我愛你!」

「我愛你」,這三個字曾經那麼容易地說出,那樣的真實。可現在,「我愛你」卻顯得那樣的遙遠!

「我愛你」,還在嗎?「我愛你」,還會是真的嗎?

今天,有那麼一個地方,家庭更新協會的恩愛夫婦營,那是一片聖靈同在的青草地。陽光下,當讚美的歌聲傳來,你牽著配偶溫暖的手,擦著不斷湧出的淚水,悄悄地訴說:「我愛你,親愛的!」情深處,你仰起頭,情不自禁地感恩:「謝謝你,親愛的天父,是你先愛了我們!」瞬間,心中飛出了那天上來的聲音:「除你以外,在天上我有誰呢;除你以外,在地上我也沒有所愛慕的......」(詩73:25)。

「我愛你,我的主!」「我愛你」,這是真的!

從此,我們擁有了愛的力量,從此,我們接上了愛的源頭!

父母啊,我真的愛您!您是我親爹親娘,孝敬父母是神的命令,我怎能不愛您!

孩子啊,我真的愛你!你是神所賜,神所託,神的產業,我怎能不愛你!

親愛的,我更真心地愛你!你是神所配,神所愛,我骨中骨,肉中肉,我怎能不愛你!

我的主啊,我最最地愛你!你是我的唯一,沒有你的愛,我將一無所有,我怎能不愛你!

2008 年 10 月,曾經恩愛 20 多年的我們來到了家新多倫多國語恩愛夫婦營。這並非是我們自己願意,實在是無可奈何:大女兒進入高中後與我們的關係一年不如一年,最後接近崩潰;更料想不到的是,旁人眼中甜甜蜜蜜的這對老夫老妻,也因著女兒教育的意見分歧而開始爭吵,開始反目,一句「我們分開吧」敲響了我們婚姻的警鐘。

現在回想起來,那短短的震撼的三天兩夜,神為我們開啟了一扇新門!神好像在說:「孩子,我愛你!跟我來吧!」— 我們猛然驚醒:「神愛我,這是真的!這是愛的源頭!」

愛的管子接上了,路的方向找對了,就把自己交出來了......。爭吵,一定還在,吼聲,似乎依舊,埋怨,仍然不少,真愛,常常乏力,我們與魔鬼的爭戰還在繼續......。然而,我們卻信心百倍!因為,神說,我愛你!這是真的!

 

世上的事業,我們會努力,但不強求!

父母的孝順,我們會全心,但不盲從!

孩子的教養,我們會盡職,但不居首!

牽手的婚姻,是你儂我儂,一生一世!

我愛你,這是真的!

因為是我的主說的!

我愛你,這是真的!

神的愛剛從我身上流過......。

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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