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【EQ 在線】當被人藐視時,你的 EQ 還在嗎?

 

傳道書 9:15-16「城中有一個貧窮的智慧人,他用智慧救了那城,卻沒有人記念那窮人。 我就說,智慧勝過勇力;然而那貧窮人的智慧被人藐視,他的話也無人聽從。」

昨晚收到澳門教會來訊:

「....12月17日能到貴機構學習,真的很期待!另一方面,教會好想安排20多位兒童導師們,分別到貴機構學習學習,不知明年是否方便?有勞安排,等待回覆!辛苦你了!」

這是很駭人的好反應,我機構的訓練室僅可容最多八位旁聽學員,這樣多來賓需要我預三次接待的星期六,本來是一種辛苦感,然而這要求卻出現在我團隊被厚待好食好住的西雅圖旅程!

感謝神,讓我和同工們先上一課,有樣學樣。

大住客的爸爸說:

「落機後好似另一個世界,大開眼界,當地人招待好熱情..」


大住客的媽媽說:

「教會弟兄姊妹亦熱情,屋企好似高級酒店服侍,所以我要領受這恩典後學吓人哋點熱情招待。」


同工說:

「好熱情細心嘅招待,有埋歡迎信,所以真係好多謝佢哋,亦真係要向佢哋學習吓...到咗屋企後好驚喜對方細心準備時間表同歡迎,連廁所手巾牙刷都準備好,好有心機,所以好感激屋主好細心招待..」


我完全相信西雅圖之旅是神預備了最優秀的接待團隊,把我們過去對外地有人來觀課的辛苦感洗清,給我們換上熱情的期待,要使來賓體驗返家的興奮。

昨天西宣的 Eric 哥哥,給我們全程的歡樂,他的心思和動員其他教友與自己一家使我們笑足一天。

大住客的母親向我說:「現在我知道為甚麼你在日記常說西雅圖是第二個家。」

其實在溫哥華、波士頓、多倫多、芝加哥、紐約、三藩市,我都經歷過很熱情的款待家庭,只是西雅圖所經歷的,是好像一個接力隊的實力,四棒都是夫婦長幼互相配搭的深情,使我們花多眼亂般的精彩。

今早續看傳道書第九章,一段很反映這時代人心的經文,有人用智慧解救了一個小城,但這麼大的功勞也被人忘記了,又再提醒我們做了什麼事情,不要期望別人的回報。

我的個案回憶中有很多苦澀的心,就是做了一世賢妻良母,替夫家挽救曾經撕裂破碎的歷史;有辦公室政治下被欺凌的忠臣,他們長期的付出被解讀作擦鞋。

也有老師對頑劣學生的制約訓導,被學生家長投訴為針對苦待;更有傳道人想表達勸勉關懷,卻被旁人甚至摰友說是干涉他人自由。

人用他的智慧拯救了一個困局,都期望別人欣賞他的心思,但聖經勸告我們,不要以為自己有好表現,就理當受別人的尊重。

世界對我們的反應,卻常常不是這樣如意,所以人自從懂事就在被排斥下生存;到青年階段外表是身高力壯,其實內心是一個脆弱的傷兵,未活到中年已經滿口悲觀反話,挑剔別人稱讃的美麗事物,為了要平衡自己心裏的不舒服,達到「怎可信人有善良好動機,人心與我一樣睇齊吧!」

在美國聽到信徒談選舉的事,他們向年幼子女說要祈禱求智慧,找出在不易明辨的答案。

很多人問我應該怎樣迎接每天的動盪世情,在腐敗的瘋狂找錯文化中,建立一個健康的生活形態,免得變成抑鬱病人。

今早聖經的答案,是在安靜中專心聆聽智慧言語,不要迷途於愚昧言論,辨別那些是好像鬧市中的喊聲,內裏沒有意義。

人只有返回心靈的安靜地帶,才知道智慧真的能勝過與人鬥爭的武器,不要參與能敗壞很多善行的喊聲。

亂世仍有一個真正歡樂的人生,就是跟從神的人生,這些話我們每天實踐多少分鐘呢?

智慧人的善行,被接納的機會不大,更何況實行智慧的事,即要在高的道德水準上進行。

用智慧救了那城,卻沒有人紀念他的工作;解救者常常被忽視和遺忘,可見於舊約約瑟的經歷,公眾的輿論就是這樣變幻莫測的。

當漸覺世界看似忘記你的仁愛,你仍需要去痛苦群中為他們打氣,因為在那些哭聲的人堆,你發現上帝也早與他們一起,祂欣賞說:「你也來!」

這是我去年二月情人節前,臨離開西雅圖夫婦營那早上分享的最後一節經文:

「然而,你們和我同受患難原是美事。」(腓立比書 4:14)

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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