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【夫妻同心】回歸靈命成長的家庭

 

「至於我和我家,我們必定事奉耶和華。」(書24:15下)

「教養孩童,使他走當行的道,就是到老他也不偏離。」(箴22:6)

「你們作丈夫的,要愛你們的妻子,正如基督愛教會,為教會捨己。」(弗5:25)

「你們作妻子的,當順服自己的丈夫,如同順服主。」(弗5:22)

「他們說:當信主耶穌,你和你一家都必得救。」(徒16:31)

今天給孩子最好的禮物,就是耶穌基督的救恩,以及父母和諧婚姻!上述聖經所描述的和樂情境,相信都是我們盼望的!而夫婦二人的屬靈生命,以及與神的關係,都直接影響和諧婚姻,及敬虔的下一代的建立。因為耶穌說:「我是葡萄樹,你們是枝子。常在我裡面的,我也常在他裡面,這人就多結果子...。」(約15:5上)

要建立合神心意的婚姻家庭,夫婦靈命必須成長,就要回歸與神建立親密的關係,才是建立幸福家庭之道。「『操練身體,益處還少;惟獨敬虔,凡事都有益處,因有今生和來生的應許。』這話是可信的,是十分可佩服的。」(提前4:8-9)

一、回歸靈命成長的三個步驟(腓3:12-14)

1. 認識:首先是認識自己靈命乏善可陳、不足和貧乏;帶著虛心(太5:3)和飢渴慕義的心(太5:6)去追求。「這不是說我已經得著了,已經完全了...我不是以為自己已經得著了。」(腓3:12上, 13上)

2. 追求:其次為靈命成長而努力追求。「我乃是竭力追求...只有一件事,就是忘記背後,努力面前的,向著標竿直跑...」(腓3:12下, 13下-14下)

3. 目標:第三是向準目標而行,為要得著從神而來不能朽壞的獎賞「或者可以得著基督耶穌所以得著我的 ...要得神在基督耶穌裡從上面召我來得的獎賞(腓3:12下, 14下)。

二、回歸靈命成長要訣(腓3:10,12)

我們要更深認識基督,經歷神的豐盛!得著基督,並不等如真正認識基督;惟有靈命成長和經歷神,才得著跟從神的豐盛人生!正如保羅是因「曉得祂復活的大能。」(腓3:10上)結果願意「和祂一同受苦,效法祂的死。」(腓3:10下)

三、回歸靈命成長對建立家庭之意義

1. 目標是得著基督,深入地認識基督,我們有許多建立婚姻家庭的課程,但最重要是:「我們願意見耶穌」(約12:21下),即是要深入認識基督,並有實際行動:「曉得和祂一同受苦,效法祂的死。」(腓3:10下)

神給我們恩典認識祂,就是要我們的家庭事奉祂,因為:「多給誰,就向誰多取;多託誰,就向誰多要。」(路12:48下)夫婦一同回歸靈命的成長,最終目的是捨棄自我中心,活得像基督。

2. 夫婦的靈命有了追求的目標和方向,才能竭力跟隨基督「這不是說我已經得著了,已經完全了;我乃是竭力追求,或者可以得著基督耶穌所以得著我的。」(腓3:12)

生活在工作、養兒育女、自我增值和事奉的壓力下,使我們「忙→茫→忘→亡」,失去方向。因此,我們的家庭要有目標才帶來更新。神喜悅我們「更新」,聖經原文的「新」,不是時間上的新舊,而是一個在神裡面屬靈的狀態。「若有人在基督裡,他就是新造的人。」(林後5:17)

3. 追求靈命長進,切戒自滿或自棄,
「弟兄們,我不是以為自己已經得著了;我只有一件事,就是忘記背後,努力面前的。向著標竿直跑,要得神在基督耶穌裡從上面召我來得的獎賞。」(腓3:13-14)

靈命的成長帶來思維和品格的長進,例如:愛神愛人,對罪惡敏感,渴慕神話語,相信神聽我們的禱告,喜歡祈禱和敬拜神,夫婦放下自我,愛配偶、父親的心轉向兒女,兒女的心轉向父親。相反,靈命停滯或倒退對家庭會帶來負面影響,例如:冷漠、推卸責任、抱怨和指責、不願意鼓勵人和幫助別人等...。基督教信仰是犧牲自己來成就別人!信徒的家庭是地上的燈台,要榮耀神!


最後,保羅勉勵信徒要得神在基督耶穌裡從上而召我來得的獎賞:是不能壞的冠冕(林前9:25),喜樂的冠冕(腓4 :1;林前2 :19),公義的冠冕(提後4:8),榮耀的冠冕(彼前5:1-4)和生命的冠冕(雅1:12;啟2:10)。

結語

深盼「夫婦靈命齊成長,家庭建立有盼望」、「竭力追求認識主,生命豐盛榮耀神」。

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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