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【讀經隨想】不要為自己伸冤

 

親愛的弟兄!不要自己伸冤,寧可讓步,聽憑主怒[或作讓人發怒];因為經上記著:"主說,伸冤在我,我必報應。" (羅馬書12:19

前陣子在網路上看了一個影片,覺得很有意思,於是搜尋了文字版的故事。轉載如下:

二十年前,我在紐約市搭計程車時學到的這一課。來說說當時發生了什麼事。

我跳上計程車,趕往中央車站。車子正開在右線道,突然一輛黑色轎車從前面的停車格竄出來。計程車司機猛踩剎車,車子横向打滑,輪胎發出尖銳的嘎吱聲。好不容易車子才停下來,只差一吋就要撞上黑色轎車的車屁股。

真是太嚇人了,但更嚇人的還在後頭。

黑色轎車的駕駛人明明有錯在先,這會兒卻轉過頭大吼大叫,罵我們一些髒字眼。他甚至對我們比出中指。

眼看一場衝突一觸即發,但令我納悶的是,計程車司機竟然笑著對那傢伙揮了揮手。我的意思是說,他的態度頗為友善。我忍不住問道:「你是怎麼了?那個人差點闖出大禍!」計程車司機卻不急不徐地回答道:「許多人就像垃圾車,全身滿載著挫折、憤怒、失望等負面情緒。垃圾愈堆愈多,他們得找地方倒。如果你容許,他們就會把垃圾倒到你身上。所以說,當有人想把垃圾往你身上倒,千萬不要收下。只要微笑、揮手、祝福他們,然後繼續走你的路。相信我,這麼做你會更快樂。」

故事中的「垃圾車」指的當然不是台灣街頭播放著 "少女的祈禱"的收垃圾的卡車,而是指我們自己或他人的負面情緒。每當你處在悲觀消極、過度焦慮、聲調尖銳、為難他人或不讓自己走出陰影之際,這些都是在堆積垃圾。若是你能夠體貼包容、知足惜福、真心讚美、以原諒代替怨恨,這樣的健康心態便是感恩。

這個世界,人與人之間充滿了爭競,大多數人想的都是如何顯露自己、脫穎而出;如何快速成功、出人頭地。不但職場如此,連馬路上也盡顯此風氣,超速搶道,彼彼皆是。處在這樣處處競爭的環境中,心情總是緊繃。技不如人者或是背景不佳者,便心中不平、滿有苦毒,以至出言不遜,所謂「言為心聲」,言語是心之外顯,從其所言,即可辨明其心。

反觀自己的所言、所想,到底是在心底不斷堆積垃圾,還是不斷堆積感恩呢?或許從我們如何面對倒垃圾的人,即有跡可尋。當我們遇見一些口出抱怨、批評、指責的人,而我們被這些人激怒而報復反擊,那不顯明我們的心也是與他們一樣的不平、不滿且不自覺嗎?。(箴言15:28)記載, "義人的心,思量如何回答;惡人的口,吐出惡言。" 事實上,當我們的心態健康,心裡容器裝滿了天父的愛,才有可能憐憫、包容、接納他人(包括自己)的負面情緒啊!

就算他人真是無理或自以為是地得罪了我們;其實這樣的無理或自以為是,也同樣得罪了天父。(路加福音15章)浪子的比喻中,那個小兒子回家後對父親說的第一句話就是 "父親!我得罪了天,又得罪了你;從今以後,我不配稱為你的兒子。" 從這個角度看,得罪人即是得罪了神,不討神的喜悦。那麼應對這個無理的被得罪,交在主的手中豈不比握在自己手中更穩妥?因為 "主說,伸冤在我,我必報應。"!

事實上,我們多數人對自己的心境不太察覺,所以經常都在堆積垃圾,又不懂得好好清理它們,一旦心中的垃圾堆積滿了,只要遇到的不是老闆,就往那個倒霉鬼身上倒。如果你正是那個人,你該怎麼應對呢?你有那位計程車司機的肚量,對著他微微笑、揮揮手,然後轉身,繼續走你的路嗎?這樣的胸懷,如若没有為父的憐憫恩慈的心,豈能行得出來呢?

親愛的阿爸天父:

我們感謝讚美您,您是滿有憐憫恩典的主,您賜下愛子耶穌,在我們還是罪人的時候,為我們生、為我們死、為我們復活。這是何等大的憐憫、恩典、包容與愛啊!求主幫助我誠實面對自己的心;更求主光照並醫治我們許多壓在心底深處的沮喪、憤怒、苦毒等等受傷的情緒,漸漸成為一個身心靈愈來愈健康,心中充滿感恩,胸懷愈來愈寬,能包容那些身背垃圾隨走隨倒的人和事,並賜機會幫助他們也得到您無價的恩典。我這樣的不配禱告、祈求和感恩是奉耶稣基督的聖名!阿們!

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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