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【家庭更新 】恩愛夫婦營參加學員夫婦見證

 

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2018 年在溫哥華舉辦的恩愛夫婦進深營的部分營友

 

Joshua 弟兄見證

感謝主!在 2019 年之初﹐讓我和我先生有機會參加家新的第 51 屆恩愛夫妻營的營會。在入會之前,我對這次營會並沒有什麼過高的期待,因為我們夫婦倆結婚已經 31 年(1 月 13 日正好是 31 周年紀念日),雖然我們結婚時還不認識主,但主的恩典和憐憫後來臨到我們夫妻身上,我們都蒙恩得救,夫妻生活在信主後也經過了十幾年的風雨。靠著主的恩典我們在夫妻的生活中經歷了很多的風風雨雨,有喜,有淚,我們都知道,婚姻關係是神所確立,一生一世的盟約,是不能改變的。所以我自認為我們在婚姻生活上應該是沒有多大的問題,也不再需要什麼更新。

但自我們進營會的第一天,第一堂課開始,我必須說我對婚姻生活的認識還是很膚淺的,特別是在如何處理夫妻之間的衝突,如何明白配偶的感受,如何釋放心裡對配偶的不滿情緒等等方面,過去因為沒有適當地處理,所以常常造成夫婦雙方的隔閡和摩擦,既影響家庭生活的和諧氣氛,有時甚至會對在教會的侍奉產生消極的影響。

Teresa 姊妹見證

參加家庭更新協會的恩愛夫婦營的感想(收獲)如下:參加這次營會三天兩夜的課程,第一次清晰地瞭解了有關在合一裡如何好好處理夫婦間的關係,讓我更願意在神面前放下自己,謙卑地面對配偶,認罪並請求饒恕。通過這個營會,也看到我先生願意向我真誠地道謙,請求原諒,這是以前想要卻得不到的。所以,應該說這次夫妻營會真正使我們的婚姻關係得著更新。我和先生也在這次營會結束時,重新彼此立約,互相承諾更好的待對方,彼此攜手共度餘下的人生,並且在基督裡合一侍奉主,成為基督榮耀的見証人,影響我們的兒女,也幫助周圍有需要的人群。感謝讚美主!

在營會中學習到每日欣賞和讚美配偶,天天操練。學會了溝通:將學到之處運用到每天生活實際中。在溝通中,特別注重與配偶和孩子之間的有效溝通。學會了如何清理垃圾:敢於承認自已的不足或得罪配偶之處,學習了勇敢認錯,敢於剖析自己,請求對方原諒自己。

正值我們夫妻結婚三十一周年之際,意義深遠;我們有一個坦誠回顧31年婚姻生活,更有一個更新與展望未來的期許。我們立下了心志,一生一世守盟約。承諾未來手牽手、肩並肩,與配偶同走天道,不論未來是貧窮還是富有,不論是身體殘缺還是健康,都不會改變我們愛對方的初心,並將恩愛夫妻營學習到的夫妻相處之道每天操練,讓我們的夫妻生活更美滿和和詣。

家庭更新協會的培訓課程很有特色:

1. 理念不複雜,簡單實用;

2. 以聖經教導為根基,活學活用;

3. 技巧可實行。

上課老師身先士卒,起到了表率作用。今後,我會積極推薦朋友們參加這個恩愛營訓練,自己若有機會,也願參與這一事工當中。

(此婚姻篇由家庭更新協會加拿大加西分會供稿。在加拿大西部的大溫地區,該會將舉辦多次恩愛夫婦營和進深營(二級)的營會。下一次國語營會是在 2019 年 11 月 1 至 3 日,進深營是在 10 月 11-13 日。粵語營會是在 2019 年 8 月 9 日-11 日。地點是在美國華盛頓州的 Cedar Springs,營費每對加元 $680,或是位於 Chilliwack 的 Charis Camp,每對加元 $570。而在東部大多倫多地區,將於 2019 年 9 月 13-15 日(國語)以及 9 月 27-29 日(粵語)舉辦恩愛夫婦營,地點都在大多倫多地區,每對加元 $550。如果能提早 2 個月報名並繳齊營費,可以享受 $30 的價格優惠。此外在卡加利,渥太華及滿地可等地都有營會,有興趣參加者請盡早報名。查詢詳情,請聯絡溫哥華辦公室(604) 875-0203或瀏覽家新網頁:
www.cffc.ca 下載報名表。)

 

      聖經金句 (Bible Verses)

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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